Russia and Ukraine conflict - ELSA Support

Russia and Ukraine conflict

Russia Ukraine Conflict

Lots of people have asked how to help with children’s questions about this conflict. I wrote this some time back about a different event but feel it is very appropriate right now. I have also put some links below of trusted sites for information. I will add to it if I find anything else.

Talking to children after a frightening event
1.Find out what they know and correct any misconceptions.
Children do hear things on the news, on the playground and they may not fully understand what has happened. Find out what they know and then you are able to explain gently and in an age appropriate way so they can have some understanding of the situation. Encourage questions and answer as honestly as you can without causing distress. Think of the age of the child and their potential level of understanding.
2.Express feelings
Feelings are important. There may be a whole range of feelings around a frightening event from sadness to anxiety to anger. Encourage your child to express how they feel about an event and don’t be scared of expressing your feelings too. Don’t hold back the tears if you feel sad. Children need to see it is ok to let your feelings out. Use drawing or puppets to help children express their feelings.
3.Shield very young children from disturbing images on the TV
There is absolutely no need for children to see scary and frightening images on TV. This is something that does need shielding from your children. They will not understand and it could cause a lot of fear and anxiety. Shielding images and news on TV is not shielding them from what has happened. You can explain that to them in a truthful and age appropriate way.
4. Risk Assessment
Children are often scared that this might happen to them. Look at risks in life and how likely or unlikely things may happen. We just hear about them more on the news so it seems like a real threat and that it might happen anytime.
5. Routines, routines, routines
Keep to your child’s normal routines and don’t change them. Children feel safer when things carry on as normal.
Websites:

BBC newsround Website

Education hub Gov.uk

British Psychological society

Resources
There are many resources on this website to address anxiety,  and emotions to suit children of all ages.
Download this resource about clearing up misunderstandings –  Today I heard this
Today I heard this
This resource is to help pupils who are worrying too much. The Worry Tree is a method described by Butler and Hope 2007 to enable someone to either act on or let go of a worry. I have adapted the tree to make it more child friendly.

There are different types of worries. Some worries are real and relate to an actual problem that needs sorting. Those worries are IN YOUR CONTROL. You can do something about them. Other worries are hypothetical which means they are things that could or might happen. Those worries are NOT IN YOUR CONTROL. The worry tree is a great way of sorting out those real worries and those hypothetical worries. We can deal with each type differently.

Download: The worry tree

worry tree

Books

The Huge Bag of Worries is one of my favourite books. It is amazing for helping your child with their fears and worries.

It tells the story of a little girl who carries around a huge bag filled with worries. (‘The metaphor is little monsters).

The story is about a little girl called Jenny. Her worries follow her where ever she goes. The are with her at home and at school. They are in a big blue bag that she carries around with her. She tries lots of ways to get rid of the worries but they always come back.

There is so much you can do with this book to open up those conversations. You can purchase the book from Amazon. Please click the book below to take you there.

One of the activities I like to do after reading the book is to give a child a bag and using potatoes add them to the bag one at a time so they get a real feel of how worries can weigh you down. After putting a few potatoes in then take one out at a time as you offload those worries to to someone. The bag feels lighter and you can feel lighter and happier.

Other Resources you will love!

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