ANTS Blaming Barry Pupil Leaflet – Item 756

This printable Blaming Barry pupil leaflet is specially designed for children aged 7 to 11, offering gentle, neuroaffirming guidance on understanding blaming thoughts, recognising the phrase “It’s your fault!”, and learning how to take responsibility in a calm and supported way.

For many children, especially those who are neurodivergent or experience anxiety, overwhelm, or strong emotional reactions, blaming can feel automatic. It can be a quick way to cope with uncomfortable feelings such as embarrassment, frustration, or disappointment. This resource breaks it down in a clear, child-friendly way, helping children understand why blaming happens and how to respond more helpfully in real-life situations.

What’s inside the Blaming Barry pupil leaflet:

• Clear explanations of blaming thinking and why it happens
• Support to notice when “It’s your fault!” thoughts appear
• Gentle strategies to pause before reacting
• Guidance on recognising personal responsibility in a safe, balanced way
• The Responsibility Backpack activity to practise coping tools
• Visual cues and relatable examples to support understanding and engagement

Perfect for:

• PSHE lessons
• ELSA and wellbeing interventions
• School counselling
• Nurture groups
• Home conversations
• SEN support

Designed with inclusivity in mind:
This leaflet uses affirming, supportive language and avoids shame-based messaging. It encourages children to explore their thoughts safely, understand shared responsibility, and build confidence in making positive choices.

Helping children understand:

• Big feelings are normal.
• Blaming can be a quick reaction to uncomfortable emotions.
• Pausing gives space to think.
• Taking responsibility builds confidence and trust.

Design details of the Blaming Barry pupil leaflet:

• A4 printable trifold in colour and black and white
• Clean design with visual cues and calm illustrations
• Clear layout to reduce visual overwhelm

Important information:
The Blaming Barry leaflet is designed to be used as part of ELSA sessions, PSHE teaching, or another supportive session. It should not simply be handed to children without guidance. These leaflets are intended as reminders for pupils to take away and to support adults working through the content with them.

It is your responsibility to decide whether the information in this leaflet is appropriate and helpful for your pupils.

Under our terms and conditions, these leaflets must not be uploaded to school websites. They are for printing and using within sessions or as a structured basis for teaching and discussion.