An iceberg is a fantastic way of explaining how emotions manifest themselves. Only the tip of the iceberg shows in the water but underneath there is a huge amount of ice.
Anger may show itself but what is behind the anger? The anger is the tip of the iceberg. What is underneath. There may be embarrassment, sadness, anxiety, frustration, depression, grief, insecurity, regret, jealously or shame.
Ask the child to write the word ‘angry’ or some other emotion and then dig deeper and try and find out what causes that emotion. If a child recognises that perhaps it is their sadness or anxiety that is causing the anger then perhaps it might be easier to address.
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